When Feeding Feels Hard: 3 Common Struggles Moms Face (and Simple Ways to Help)
Today, I’m excited to welcome a guest on my blog! Ashley is a licensed occupational therapist who specializes in infant feeding. As moms, we often think of sleep and feeding as separate struggles, but the truth is, they’re closely connected. Especially for babies under 6 months, the way and how well your baby feeds can dramatically affect the way that they sleep.
If a baby is struggling with swallowing too much air, tiring out before finishing the feed, unable to get enough, etc., it often shows up when your baby is trying to sleep in the form of tummy troubles and frequent waking (from genuine hunger and/or discomfort). Better eating truly supports better sleeping.
Ashley is sharing the top 3 feeding struggles moms face and offering practical solutions and resources to turn to. I know so many of you will find her insight helpful and encouraging.
- Mallory
Written by: Ashley Waguespack, MS, LOTR
Sarah thought feeding her baby would be one of the most natural parts of motherhood. She pictured peaceful nursing sessions, quiet bonding moments, and a baby who finished each feed content and full.
But the reality was different. Every attempt left her baby fussy, Sarah in tears, and both of them completely exhausted. She started wondering if she was doing something wrong or worse, if she was failing as a mom.
If Sarah’s story sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Feeding difficulties are incredibly common, and they can leave moms feeling overwhelmed, guilty, and anxious. The good news? Most feeding struggles can be understood and gently improved with the right support.
Let’s walk through the three most common feeding difficulties, the signs your baby may be struggling, and some simple solutions you can try at home.
Top 3 Feeding Difficulties Moms Face
1. Latching or refusing to feed
Some babies have trouble creating a strong latch, which makes feeding stressful for both mom and baby. Others may refuse to feed altogether, leaving parents worried and frustrated.
2. Choking, gagging, or coughing during feeds
If your baby frequently coughs, sputters, or gags, it may be a sign that feeding isn’t as smooth as it should be. This can make feeding scary and stressful.
3. Baby not gaining weight or seeming unsatisfied after feeds
Few things weigh on a mom’s heart more than seeing her baby struggle to gain weight—or act hungry even after feeding. It can feel like no matter what you do, it isn’t enough.
Signs Your Baby May Be Struggling With Feeding
While every baby is unique, here are some red flags to watch for:
Fussing, arching back, or crying during feeding
Very long (or very short) feeding sessions
Clicking sounds, leaking milk, or messy feeds
Frequent spit-ups or signs of discomfort
Baby not meeting weight milestones
If you’re noticing these signs, it’s not your fault, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing as a mom. It simply means your baby needs a little extra help.
Simple At-Home Solutions
Here are a few things you can try today:
Switch up positions: Sometimes a small change, like holding your baby more upright or leaning back, can make feeding more comfortable.
Create a calm space: Babies can pick up on our stress. A quiet, relaxed environment can make a big difference.
Follow baby’s cues: Instead of watching the clock, pay attention to when your baby shows signs of hunger or fullness.
Try paced-bottle feeding (if using bottles): This can help babies better control the flow of milk and reduce choking or gagging.
And remember, there’s no shame in reaching out for extra support.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
If feeding feels like a daily battle, you deserve help that meets you right where you are. At Sensory Solutions, we’ve supported hundreds of moms and babies through these exact challenges with compassion, expertise, and a whole lot of encouragement.
You can:
Book a free Discovery Call with Ashley to talk through your baby’s feeding challenges.
Join a virtual group session and connect with other moms who understand what you’re going through.
Schedule 1:1 care for personalized support tailored to your baby’s needs.
Feeding your baby doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. With the right support, you can move from frustration and guilt… to confidence and connection.
With love, Ashley
